Not everyone talks a lot, but when everyone talks, they want to be heard. And if everyone is talking, then who is listening?
We are living in the communication age, and yet so many people do not feel as though they are being heard. So, the idea is, just keep talking or, even worse, just keep talking louder.
I sometimes feel that I am living in a world where everyone is shouting. Why are so many people shouting?
They want to be heard.
I think one of the greatest tragedies in life is when a person gives up on being heard. I wonder how many solutions have died with those who have given up on being heard?
Here are six keys to being heard.
1. Be honest.
Eph 4:25 Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another.
Say what is true. Be clear. Be straight. Think before you speak. Ask, ‘Is what I am about to say true?’
2. Be authentic.
Be yourself when you are speaking, whether it be to a group or a single friend. Know who you are. Be real with yourself first if you want to be heard. The easiest thing in the world to be is yourself.
Psa 139:14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
This verse is so often used to help people come to terms with their body type, but it also should be applied to a person’s personality. I realize that we can do things to help or hinder our body type, and we can do things to help or hinder our personality. But, to be heard, you have to be you.
3. Have integrity.
Do what you say, or as I heard a man say once, “…be your word…”
Pro 26:23 Burning lips and a wicked heart are like a potsherd covered with silver dross.
This proverb is telling us that a person who speaks beautiful words but is not a beautiful person on the inside is like a vase that is made out of clay but has been overlaid with silver, leaving the impression that it is made of silver, when in reality it is not.
4. Listen more than you speak.
Jas 1:19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.
I realize my subject matter is dealing with the keys to being heard, but one of the best ways to ensure you will be heard is to be a good listener.
This is crucial in one-on-one conversations.
People will turn you off if you are only concerned about giving information. They may be quietly sitting there as you talk, but they are not truly listening.
When addressing a group, it is wise to have some idea of what they are already thinking concerning your subject matter.
5. Love, or at least like, those you are speaking to.
1Co 13:8 Charity never faileth:…
Sincerely, desire to be a blessing to those you are speaking to. People listen to people that care about them. This is why people have strong connections with their doctors. The doctors seem to care.
This is why people can have strong connections with their barbers and beauticians. They listen and seem to care.
Really care if you really want to be heard.
6. Silence is golden.
One of the best keys to being heard is to be quiet. Have you ever noticed that in any group the quiet guy always gets everyone’s attention when he finally speaks?
Pro 29:11 A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.
It is not wise to always be speaking your mind.
Prov. 17:27-28 He that hath knowledge spareth his words: and a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit. Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.
I hope these six keys will help you be heard. But remember, the person who gives everyone a piece of their mind will surely lose their mind.